Creative ventures, travel, relocation, new hobbies – we all have those dreams that consume our thoughts. But why do we struggle so much to make them a reality?
‘If only I had more time / money / creativity / talent / confidence, then I would be able to do everything I have always wanted to do.’ This mental block is the one obstacle that stands in the way of making these hopes become real. And funnily enough, you are the one creating it.
We like being the victim of our own destiny – never able to achieve what we yearn for as a result of a poor childhood or not enough support from our parents or those around us. This ensures that we are kept safe from success – never subjected to the spotlight and the opinions of others. In the same way, it allows us the freedom to continue complaining – if we can’t get what we really want, then we have a reason to be negative, grumpy and moody.
Imagine what would happen if we sold that painting, published that book, travelled to that place, took that course or made that change? We would have nothing left to complain about, we would actually have reached a point of satisfaction. And we all know what that means…
Happiness, fulfillment and joy of course! But, then again, we humans don’t like to be happy. Complaining and moaning are far more pleasing than smiling and taking some time out to actually ENJOY life!
In our painful quest to make something of our lives, we become so consumed with the outcome that we rarely enjoy the process. We worry if our book will sell, if anyone will like our painting, if we will make friends in our new location, if we will be any good at our new hobby – and in our dire attempt to be successful, we end up destroying our passion and all the many sparks that set us on this destiny path to begin with.
In those times, it is imperative that we take the time to breathe. Stop writing, painting, making travel arrangements, searching for the right course for a while and instead take some time out for you. Turn your phone off, disconnect yourself from your social life, leave work early, forget about being perfect and looking after everyone else. Take the time to nurture yourself and your soul. Free your mind and do the things you LOVE to do – watch your favourite movie, take yourself shopping, go for a walk in nature, have a picnic in your garden, buy yourself a pet. Whatever you do, make sure it is just for you.
Because, in finding yourself again, you will have the strength and the confidence to move forwards and make your dreams a reality.
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