How To Deal With 'A Bad Day'

We all have those days when we feel like vanishing off the face of the planet - those days when you wonder what your purpose is, when you feel as though life is just somewhere you go to pass the time and you honestly contemplate quitting everything and moving to the South Pole. Believe it or not, those days are the ones we need to be grateful for - those are the days that signal an end to something old and the beginning of something new. If we didn't have those days, we would never have grand epiphanes that change our lives.

 

I have learnt the hard way that days like those should be embraced, not neglected. Instead of waking up negative, feeling grumpy all day and going to bed feeling utterly miserable, embrace the fact that you feel a little otherwise and then keep an eye out for possibility - a previously blocked door might suddenly swing open and offer you the solution you have been looking for.

 

The universe works in mysterious ways and it is up to us to listen to what it has to say. A bad day is not the end of the world, it is a loudly ringing siren that signals a personal discontentment that needs work. When you have a bad day, take 5 minutes to contemplate the following:

 

• I feel angry because.....
• I feel sad because.....
• I feel frustrated because.....
• I feel guilty because....

 

Once you have done that, think about this:

 

• What expectations do I have at the moment?

 

Carefully consider if these expectations are reasonable. If they are, feel them, write them down and find a way to express those expectations to the relavant people. If they suddenly seem a little unreasonable, thank yourself for being so honest and move them out of your head.

 

Now, think about the following:

• What do I want to change in my life?
• What have I been thinking about doing for ages, but haven't yet done?
• How are my emotions affecting my relationships and my job?
• What would I love to do more of?
• What would make me feel fantastic right now?

There should be at least one of these questions that resonates with you - allow it to sink in and create words and phrases in your mind. That is the answer. That is the reason for your bad day and if you listen to the solution and if that solution comes from your heart, you will know what needs to be done to make your days great from now on!