Wonderful Wild Women

When you think about the women in your life: are they wild, are they wonderful and powerful? Do they eat mangoes naked and run through wet grass under the moonlight? Do they love with their whole hearts and cry with their soul? Do they always put others before themselves, knowing deep down that their generosity will be returned when they least expect it? Every woman I know is wild, beautiful and full of light - some of them just don't know it yet.

If you are a woman who has not yet realised her succulence, who tends to feel unworthy, overweight and under-nourished on a soul level, who wishes for more yet can't figure out what she needs, then this is for you.

You are creative beyond measure, you are more powerful than a hundred warriors, you can change lives with just one smile and you have the ability to live a life of adventure, wonder and unlimited love. You are not who the mean people think you are, you are a Goddess of the world, here to help others see beauty through your magnificence. You are the heart of a flower, full of sweet nectar, soft petals and a rooted stem. You're grounded, confident, wondrous and powerful. You are a force of nature.

Instead of worrying about what others think, how you look in that tight dress, which heels make your legs look longer, how to please your boss and when to say the right thing, LET GO. Be the essence of a wild woman:

• Accept your power
• Say no to friends who expect too much
• Tell the truth
• Create miracles
• Make choices that make you feel alive
• Do the first thing that pops into your head
• Stop overanalysing and JUMP

My wish for you today is to honour yourself. See the beauty that everyone else sees - see it in yourself and in every other woman you meet today. We are all wonderfully wild women in search of our pack - make your pack today by admiring the women around you and inviting them to join you in celebrating your woman-ness together:

• Drink wine out of goblets on a picnic blanket while watching girly movies
• Go to the theatre wearing fancy hats and long gloves
• Throw a paint party where everyone gets to wear black plastic bags and finger-paint pictures
• Blend your own tea and then serve it with cucumber sandwiches and classical music
• Dress in your sexiest outfits and dance to 80s music in your friend's lounge
• Eat whatever you like and share the joy of not feeling guilty
• Cut up the clothes you don't like and stick the pieces onto a jacket to make something retro
• Write a love letter to your best friend on a white pillow case so she always has it next to her
• Ask your friends to send you 3 messages about why they love you (then write them down and stick them on your wall!)
• Take your mom and best friend for a massage and then paint eachother's nails bright colours
• Write vows to yourself, to always honour and cherish yourself until death do you part

To all the incredible women in my life, old and new, young and wise - thank you. You have made me feel alive!

Get rich and love it

You say you want something else, something more, but do you actually know what it is you are searching for? I didn't. For a long time I complained, moaned and turned my nose up, behaved like a 4 year old who had lost her Barbie (not pretty). And I kept looking at everyone else who was making something of themselves and severely disliking them for it. And then feeling bad about being mean to people who deserved their greatness. Ugh it was ugly. Have I said that already?


There were all these burning desires inside me - I could SEE that my future was bright, I KNEW I was worth more than a 9 to 5 job that I found remotely interesting (and that's only because of the coffee-time gossip sessions I managed to squeeze in every now and then). But I couldn't move. It's like my legs were wrapped in putty and I was stuck where I was. And that just made me even more angry! 


Then, I stumbled upon a very smart man called Napolean Hill. For those of you who are not familiar with him, he wrote the world-acclaimed 'Think and Grow Rich'. And let's be honest, if there is one thing that makes us all happy, it's MONEY! Now, I thought this financially-savvy, right-brained man would go on and on about saving, budgeting, being clever with your money, investing in the stick exchange (and all the other things that I have absolutely no clue about). But to my delight, he didn't. In fact, he focused on something completely opposite that happens to be very close to my heart - finding your purpose.


'Whoopppeeee' I thought! I'm actually not crazy. All this time I have had my own theories about how success comes to those who follow their passion and deepest desires. And here was this dude (from the 1980's), (who was very smart) who was saying exactly the same thing PLUS he had all the evidence to back it up - Edison, Ford, himself - they all trusted one thing and one thing only - THEIR VERY OWN BURNING DESIRE. And it was this surety of purpose, knowing exactly what they wanted and never veering off-track from their destination, that made them all millionaires!


From here, I couldn't contain my excitement. I decided that everyone should know about this. Instead of just writing about it, I wanted people to EXPERIENCE a process that helps them do what these great men did: locate their definite purpose. When I was stuck in the putty, my purpose was buried very deeply and that is what kept frustrating me. I had an idea of what it was, but it needed to be dug up. So, I followed the instructions in the book and I dug it up. I feel like I have unearthed a gold mine!


Master of Life has been born. 


Master of Life is all of this blog incarnated - it's real-life, in-the-flesh, let's-make-it-happen and it's open to everyone. It's a full-proof formula that will transport you to success and fulfillment. I believe everyone has the potential to gain riches - money, love, happiness, health - sometimes we just need a little nudge in the right direction. Master of Life will make sure that you get exactly what you are searching for.


My darling boyfriend, Baz, has kindly put together an awesome webpage for me with more info on Master of Life and my book: www.theidesign.co.za so check it out if you dare to dream big!


The key to success is not money, it's learning to master your own life. And in your mastery, money will flow.

The negative power of assumption

Your assumptions are your windows on the world. Scrub them off every once in a while, or the light won't come in.
~Alan Alda

We are all entitled to our own opinion, of course. But sometimes it is safer to keep it to yourself. You may think you know what is right for your partner, child, best friend or parent, but the harsh truth is – you don’t. The only thing you really know is what is true for you.

So often when sharing a conversation with someone, we are told that we have made the wrong decision or that we should rethink our motives and action plan. These assumptions are often what stop us just as we are about to succeed, as we are about to find happiness and follow our heart. That is when we need to remember that these assumptions are simply that – something that someone else has conjured up in their mind as result of their own circumstances.

That is not to say that the opinions of those who care about us are not valid. It simply means that WE have the power to CHOOSE what we want to believe and DECIDE which truth is our truth.

Reversing this situation, remember that you have also been one to offer unnecessary opinions. The next time someone you care about shares something important with you, rather just sit and listen instead of making an assumption based on your own judgments. And if your opinion persists, take a moment to think about what has been triggered in your life – what are you scared of, where are you afraid to go, what do you wish you could do with your life?

We like to think of ourselves as altruists, but in essence most of us are self-centred – not selfish, just self-focused. So when we have conversations with people around us, 90% of the time we aren’t listening whole-heartedly, we are actually thinking about how what is being spoken about affects our own lives. This is not a bad thing, however it is not always necessary to share these concerns in the moment. Sometimes it is better to just remain quiet and then simply ask questions. Take yourself out of the conversation and be the altruist you want to be – the listener, the empathetic friend, the support, the encouragement. And if you have no idea how to do that, just start by listening without thinking about yourself.

Rather than making a judgment and highlighting all the things that could go wrong with your friend's / partner's / parent's / child's plan (because ultimately that's what we do - whether it is to protect them or because it's a personal reaction), simply get them to make up their own mind by asking the right questions:

·          How are you going to do that?

·          How do you feel about it?

·          What’s next in your plan?

·          Do you have any fears about it?

·          How can I help you?

By asking the most simple questions, you allow the light to clean up your incorrect assumptions and, instead, shed some light onto your interactions and into your very own life. Plus, the next time you have something you want to talk about, that friend / parent / partner will more than likely allow you the courtesy, too, to speak freely without judgements or assumptions.